Last week we talked about when to send a thank you note… but what should it say? If you’re not Emily Post it can be hard to get the words flowing. Here are some quick tips on Thank You note etiquette.

Greet the thank-you-note recipient: “Dear _________,” (People like to hear their own name.)

First Sentence: Don’t state the obvious…. “I am just writing to say…” (Duh.) Just say it.

Actual First Sentence – Thanks: “Thank you for the ______________.”

The gift of money is a touchy subject – you should refer to it as ”your generosity” or “your kindness” instead of “Thanks for the cash.” Sounds better doesn’t it?

Use: Mention how you will use (or have already used) the gift. “I wore the blouse the very next day.”  If it’s cash/check/gift certificate - say how you plan to use the money. “It will be a great help in fixing up the new house.” Don’t exaggerate – you’ll insult their intellect. i.e. “It’s the best gift ever!”

Wrap It Up: Say how great it was to see them at Aunt Sally’s tea party, how you hope to meet again soon, or (if it’s someone you barely know) hope they are doing well.

Be Redundant: ”Thanks again for your gift.”

Sign It: (duh)

Overall: Be genuine, hand write it, and make it personal. Don’t use wording that could be photo copied for each guest – “Thank you for the gift. It’s great.” People will probably assume you paid someone to write the same note over and over. Which you can do, by the way… a lot of calligraphers provide that service. Just make sure they’re specific.

xoxo,

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